Winter season has arrived. That means, love for warm clothes and blankets, Christmas and how can we forget the New Year and its resolutions right? People are very excited to make resolutions with celebrations. Let’s see which resolutions you should make in 2020 and what are the 8 things to Quit in 2020!
Stop being a people-pleaser
Now, the first thing to quit in New Year is trying to please everyone and stop being a people-pleaser. Well, maybe you think that saying ‘please, sorry and thank you’ comes in good morals. And definitely you are right. But, what ‘people-pleaser’ here means ‘persons who put others before themselves.’ And, that is completely wrong. If you have a habit to please everyone, let me tell you that it will never lead you to self-growth. People become dependent on others like they cannot do anything alone. Thinking about the life of people before themselves becomes an addiction and they start to believe that they are improving the lives of others and contributing a lot. If you do this then, of course, your heart is very big, but you are making the other one helpless. On the other, if you please, everyone, to do something for you or ask for help, then you’re going backward in life. This will lead to nothing but a lack of confidence, lack of self-esteem and a habit of getting dependent on everyone.
Now, what should you do to quit this habit? Here we go!
You need to understand that you have a choice. It is not compulsory that you have to say ‘yes’ to everyone when someone asks for your help. That doesn’t mean you have to be arrogant or rude. Understand this concept deeply.
You need to know your priorities. You need to work on your own life. It is so important to have your own dreams and goals. Set your priorities and start working on them. You can set a time limit if someone is asking for your help. For eg, I am only available from 5 pm to 7 pm.
Make sure you don’t get manipulated. Sometimes, people told you that no one can do this job except you. consider this manipulating thing seriously and take some time to think about it and make a decision.
Make a mantra. Remind yourself every time that you have to stop this habit of being people-pleasing. After all, you can do everything on your own if you believe that you can.
I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.Ed Sheeran
Overcome fear of change
Fear of change is also called ‘Metathesiophobia’. Often people are afraid of some change, whether it is to change themselves or to the situation. People are afraid of being changed because they get addicted to that situation and do not approve of leaving the comfort zone.
But, the fact is if we really want to have success, great opportunities and to change the current situation, we need to change ourselves. People take this very lightly, they think that they don’t need anything, they don’t need to do work or this phase is going to be like the same now. But actually, life is a series of ups and downs, if you go up, you’ll come down, and when you go down, you’ll go up. Keep in mind, nothing in this world is permanent. Everything has to change. This is one of the best steps in 8 things to quit in 2020.
Here are some ways through which you can overcome your fear of change phobia!
Understand and accept the fact that ‘Life is all about change’. Some might believe that change is not good and uncomfortable and they avoid it. It is because most people go through some pain and suffering but don’t think in that way. Accept the pain in the form of opportunities to grow. Always remember, ‘you will get more happiness than you will tolerate’.
Accept the situation or phase of the present but don’t get addicted to it. If you are having a good time, always remember that you do not get used to it. Of course, live good times with an open heart but be prepared for the bad times strongly.
Always look at failure through a positive aspect. The biggest barrier that is stopping you to change might be fear of failure. Don’t look at failure as a bad time. Take it as a lesson and move forward for some new opportunities.
The last but not the least is to have ‘patience’. Patience is the most important part of life. You need to understand that there is no such thing like an ‘overnight success’. You have to keep working on your dreams consistently and keep patience in your pocket of life all the time.
He who has overcome his fears will truly be free.Aristotle
Stop living in the past
There were many things of our past that broke us literally and stopping us to move forward in life. Living in the past life will make you blind for the future as well as the present. Let wonderful times come in your life. Always stand up with pride that you did it, you faced the bad times. Let’s help you to move out of your past!
You need to examine your life deeply. Take time to deeply understand why did the bad time came and what lesson did he teach you? If you start solving life in this way, then your difficulties will become easier. Understand that you cannot change what has happened, but by improving today you can change your future.
Let your feelings come out! Sometimes we go through bad times and do not like to share with anyone. You can share it with your close ones or best friends and if you don’t feel like or if you are not comfortable, it is okay. You can try another way. Write down your thoughts and feelings on paper or you can also make a personal diary. Put all the feelings in it. You might feel it like time-wasting, but it is the only way to overcome the past is to express all your emotions out.
The best thing you can do is focus on what you can change now. We always feel regret or guilt that I wish it had not happened or if I could have done it. Instead of this, you can accept what you did and commit yourself that you’ll not do it again and then improve it. Don’t blame yourself. Always remember, there is always something that you can change.
Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.Wayne Dyre
One of the best ones in 8 things to quit in 2020 is overthinking. Well, some might believe that thinking is good or important. But when it crosses a limit, to which we called ‘overthinking’ it leads to anxiety and depression. Consider the fact that overthinking is a factor that is holding you back in life. People overthink every problem and they feel it is bigger and horrible than it actually is.
The more you overthink, the more likely you’ll damage your mental health. Now how to stop overthinking? The ways are here!
Every time you think, ask yourself a question, will it matter in 5 years or 5 weeks? If you found yes, then you have time to improve it. And if not, there is no need to worry.
You can always start from where you are. However, you can’t totally avoid stressful things. It will come out in some way or the other. If that problem has come in front of you, then there will also be a solution, with the help of you can solve everything.
Take a break whenever you feel down or broken. Go for a hangout with friends or read a self-help book. It can be very helpful for you to stop overthink and it will divert your mind to other wonderful things. It will also keep you focused and allows you to recharge yourself.
Watch out your social media feeds! Maybe people will think, that is has nothing to do with social media. But the fact is social media is changing our daily lives. Watch out deeply what do you have your social media feed. It happens that we wake up in the morning and take our phone in the hand and we see negative news or feed. You might not feel anything at that moment, but that news will rotate in your mind all day. And this will make your mood worse all day. Make sure you follow well-motivated pages every time.
Worrying is like rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but does’nt get you anywhere.Erma Bombeck
Being afraid to be different
People always feel that being different is bad. People will not accept them. That is not true. Everyone in this world is different on their own. It is not necessary that you love what people will love or you hate what people will hate. Everyone has different perspectives and points of view.
Notice your fears! Everything starts with awareness. Don’t blame yourself for anything. Overcome your fears fearlessly. Think about your weaknesses that are stopping you from being you. Accept it and be brave and powerful to change it into strengths.
Admit your weaknesses or fears that you are afraid of something. It is okay to be uncomfortable. Keep in mind that just don’t accept your weaknesses but change it as a strength. When you stop being afraid of anything, you’ll become free to do anything that you want.
Accept yourself as you are. Every person has its own story, own purpose and own phases. Nothing in the world has the same life as you have. Everyone needs to go through the lifecycle and to live. Be kind to everyone. Be fearless and make sure you write your story a different one.
Don’t be afraid of being different, be afraid of being the same as everyone else.Alex Moragan
Sacrificing your happiness for others
The best fact of the world is you must take care of yourself first in order to take care of others’ life. No doubt, it is remarkable when someone cares about others’ well-being. But, you need to understand some limits otherwise you’ll end up losing yourself. There will come a time when you will get exhausted and found yourself pleasing everyone. Stop wasting your energy!
Sometimes, helping others makes you forget yourself. The thing you should have on your priority list is ‘you’ only. Nothing comes first. Start working on your life.
At some point, you’ll realize that relationships are the barrier that is holding you backward. You’re allowing people too much to depend on you. And in the end, you found nothing but helplessness and regrets.
Never dissatisfy yourself to satisfy others.
Thinking you’re not good enough
There are many factors because sometimes you start feeling you’re not good enough. You may feel ashamed or bad of being yourself, you filled with fear, and you start compromising yourself for every reason.
It may be your culture or relationships, that make you feel that you’re not good enough. Stop making yourself a false one and instead of that discover your true self and be you. You are more valuable than anything else in this universe.
Stop comparing yourself to others. No matter whether it’s a supermodel or your co-worker, never compare anything. Take inspiration from them and change it into your own way. Remember to be kind always.
You must have heard these things while speaking to yourself, ‘I am not that smart enough, I am not able to do this, I am not looking that much beautiful, people hate me’ and so on. But now, its time to speak to your inner self. If you think you are not a good one to do it you’ll start blaming yourself and you will be afraid of everything. Eventually, this will put you down in your own eyes and you will lose your confidence and self-esteem.
If you’re walking down the right path, eventually you’ll make progress.Barack Obama
Thinking you have no purpose
If you are the one who is finding a purpose or feeling like I have no purpose then you are not the first only one in the world. There are many. This may happen because people demotivate you and you get affected by your surroundings.
But, once you find your path, you become a fearless and confident one. There is some effective way through which you get help in 8 things to quit in 2020 and you can find your purpose.
The best way to know yourself better is making a habit of ‘reading books’. Books connect people by their inner-self. It proves to be a good exercise of your mind and also it improves your creativity. Research shows that people who read every day are more tended to solve problems and find inner self. So, if you are feeling low and demotivated, go to a bookstore or library, find a book that suits you, read it, apply it in your life and see what happens.
The first thing you should do in the morning just after waking up is to feel gratitude. Feel blessed of being who you are and what you have in the present and ask strongness and willingness to become what you want. This is a good therapy if you’re feeling like trouble.
Listen to what other people appreciate about you and do appreciate others. This will make you a kind and better person. Appreciation through others will make you motivated and fueled your work life as well. We all know gratitude strengthens everything.
The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.Pablo Picasso
So, that’s all the 8 things to quit in 2020. Here’s wishing you a Happy 2020 in advance and may your lives filled with happiness, joy, strength, and blessings. Share with us thoughts and doubts and get connected.Thanks for Reading. Like this article?
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